I am wondering if I am being silly and alone in my thinking, but it seems that Facebook is bothering me more and more lately. I keep seeing different things that many girls in my ward are doing and I am never invited. Should I just ignore them so that I don't get bugged, quit Facebook or what? Do you any of ever feel this way? Justin thinks I am just silly and shouldn't let anything like this bother me, but it still does. I guess my whole life I have always wanted to be part of the popular group and never quite been there. Not that it is really that important but they always seem to be doing fun girl's night outs and getting together for lunch and projects during the day and it just seems like fun! I guess I should just have my own get-togethers and invite my own friends over and just get over it!
I do have a lot of great friends besides those friends/acquaintances so how do I stop it from bugging me! I'd love any suggestions!
10 years ago
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Don't let it bug you. My ward in Az became very clicky. I was IN that click. And after moving away from all the drama, gossip, and more drama, (Though we did have lots of fun get togethers) I realized that none of them were my true friends. It was SO FAKE! When I moved away, none of those 'clicky' friends helped with my move. My 'TRUE' friends did, which were only a few. I have hardly kept contact with anyone from the 'click' since i've moved. NOW I wish I would have spent more time with those friends that I knew were true, and I miss them tons! I have made myself a promise that I will not get into one of those clicks again. I'm going to be friends with everyone and if I want to get together with close friends, I'm not going to sit around and wait for someone else to plan. I'm going to plan it! :)
I know I don't live real close to you, but I would LOVE to do a GNO with you and anyone else that wants to come. Love ya Janelle.
I was hoping that by the title of this post you would be offering some advice which goes to show how bad I need some advice too about this subject. The town I live in is often referred to as "Provo look alike" meaning it's a huge college town which translates to CLICK HAVEN! Except the clicks go by your profession. There is the dental click, the medical resident click, etc., etc. Jon is the only pharmacy student which means we have a hard time making friends. It's so hard. We finally started hanging out with school friends and they are so nice and respectful about our standards as well. I also always extend my home and care for anyone in the ward who needs it. I try so hard to talk to click girls and tell them its not necessary and it worked for a while but people fall back into their old ways. It's such a sore subject with me and I sorta take comfort knowing I am not the only one experiencing it. You are such a cool and fun girl that if you are having a hard time then it really is a problem!
Isn't it so funny how you think when you grow up, things will be different out of high school only to find out, high school was just the beginning of more to come? I have had similar thoughts about Facebook, only my problems on FB are with my inlaws where I never had problems with them before. I have thought many times that FB is a great tool for keeping in touch with friends, but I also see where you are coming from. Before FB people's lives were more private and you couldn't see what so and so was doing this Friday. I think you know that Brian has some gays in his family and have used FB to put mormons down on the whole prop 8 thing which has caused a huge rift in his family. It just sucks that Satan has to take something that is so fun and finds ways to hurt people with it. I don't think anyone was trying to bug you though. I bet what happened is a few girls thought to get together and didn't even think to invite others but I bet if you said, "Hey that sounds fun would you care if I came," They probably would have thought the more the merrier. When I saw that a big group of friends were getting together from high school and I wasn't formally invited, I jumped right in and asked if I could come too and I did and it was so fun. But, I am available now that I'm not working so call me anytime and I'd love to come see you! ESPECIALLY when Brian is flying.
Thanks everyone! Emily, there is a slight problem with doing that. There is a girl who is part of the group who doesn't like me and although I've tried to confront the problem by emailing her, she has decided to not ever respond. Since she is always there, I don't feel like I can really belong in the group with the awkward feelings. Oh well, I have decided just today that those things don't really matter. I'm not going to let it get me down anymore and just enjoy the friends that I do have!!!
This reminds me of high school, and oddly enough when Shane and I first built a home out in WJ it felt like I had never LEFT high school! It was the same! So nearly 2 years later the house went on the market and we moved...best choice I ever made! I love my ward and neighborhood now. There is more of a mix of ages, stages in life, so it's much easier for everyone to befriend eachother. I think that was my problem in WJ. Everyone was in the same stage. So when people hung out without me constantly I felt like I was left out.
I'm not saying to sell or move because of it (well, yes I am, move by me!!!!), but I guess I'm saying that it is nearly everywhere, and you just have to ignore them and love where you are at in life. You don't need snobs in your life anyways. You've got little old me!!! And we go way back my friend!
It stinks, doesn't it. Plan your own parties and don't invite them. Then make sure to post it on FB. LOL. That's not the Christ-like answer, but it's funny! ;)
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